Before Wednesday, I had no idea who Josh Cavallo was. That morning the Adelaide United midfielder took to social media to tell the world: “I’m a footballer, and I’m gay.” Josh bravely spoke about his shame and his exhaustion in hiding who he was in a video posted to United’s Twitter page. The post Josh made received more than 17,000 likes and 35,000 retweets, with countless posts of congratulations and support made by Premier League clubs, soccer superstars and politicians. I hope this is a turning point for the LGBTQ+ community in sport, but I have this lump in the back of my throat, telling me it isn’t that easy. I play sport. I have been in the changerooms and on the field, and I know we still have so much work to do. People still make homophobic comments and share backward views, which are rarely — if ever, in some cases — called out. I was in a situation within the past few years when a teammate said something archaic, and I called him out, and I was looked upon as the one who was in the wrong. “It’s just a joke. Don’t be so sensitive,” I was told. By keeping homophobia in our dialogue, even if it is a joke, we ingrain it in our way of thinking. Being gay becomes a negative, or a punchline, and no one wants to feel like they are lesser or something to laugh at. I’m not perfect, either. I still say things I intend to be jokes which have the ability to offend people, but I am working on it. You have to train yourself out of this way of thinking, to realise the things you say — no matter how they are intended — can have an impact on people. Josh Cavallo is a symbol, but he isn’t a solution. It is now up to us to carry the torch, so be careful what you say — you never know who it might affect.